<![CDATA[R.G. Frazia, Author of Don't Blame Hazel!-Bullying Prevention Book for Children:) - Blog]]>Tue, 19 Sep 2017 16:49:25 -0400Weebly<![CDATA[Meet Hazel]]>Mon, 28 Aug 2017 04:00:00 GMThttp://dontblamehazel.com/blog/meet-hazelPicture

Hazel is new in town and tomorrow is her first day at her new school. Hazel is a shy young girl and she never seems to feel that she fits in with the other children.  

You see, Hazel likes to dress different.  She loves her black dresses, her black and white tights and most of all her pointy black hat.  

​But as much as Hazel loves the way she looks, she was also worried that the other kids might not...
Hazel's mother reassures her that she should always be herself no matter what anyone thinks.  Which helps the butterflies in Hazel's belly to disappear.  But when Hazel kisses mom good bye and heads off to school, it is a whole other story...
​Children love and can easily identify with Hazel and her experiences.
As an author of a bullying prevention book, I have visited many classes to help empower children to be themselves despite what others say. Easier said than done.  When a child is approached by a bully will they remember all of the things that I said? Probably not, and that is where Hazel comes in.  We can talk to our children day-and-night but when they are in it, it is a whole different story.  

Hazel empowers and relates to children on a personal level.  They actually feel her pain and do not like seeing what happens to her because she is such an innocent, loving, good hearted child.  Kids are naturally innocent and loving until the world kicks in.  Hazel shows what a child can do if they are in trouble, what bullying looks like from the outside and most importantly she proves that, being a bully doesn't make you look good! 

Get your copy today!! Just click the book cover below.

Visit the webpage for discussion questions based on the book, a coloring page, Signup to receive Letters From Hazel to your students/children each month, and great resources on bullying.  
​Your purchase is valuable and much appreciated:)

W/ Love, R.G. Frazia
www.rgfrazia.com

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<![CDATA[Letter's From Hazel-September, 2017]]>Wed, 23 Aug 2017 04:00:00 GMThttp://dontblamehazel.com/blog/letters-from-hazel-september-2017Note from the author: I hope this finds you well:) The Letter's From Hazel are based on the book, Don't Blame Hazel!, and her experiences in her school life being a 7 year old child. 
Instructions: Read to students and/or children after reading the book. Each month a Letter will be posted on my blog based on Hazel's point of view and issues that go on in school day-to-day that children experience.  Hazel speaks to your children, asks questions, gives advice and relates to what they go through.  She helps to support them through issues that naturally arise. Please sign up to receive the newsletter in your email monthly by clicking the Welcome page tab above or at the bottom of this letter.  You can always find her letters here, under my blog on the web page. ​All my best. W/Love R.G. Frazia, Author of Don't Blame Hazel!

​Hello, Friends!

Tomorrow, is my first day of school and I am a little nervous. 

How about you?

Ever since I moved to Hill Crest, I have had nothing but problems. Well, you know what happened last year with Helga.  This year I hope that the kids are nicer to me. I hope that they are nice to you too.

The good news is, I feel more comfortable now that I know that I can tell my teacher, parent or school staff member when someone is bullying me.  I also know that me, being the way that I am, is okay. And that those who make fun are truly the ones who have the problem...

So what am I so nervous about???
  
What are some things that you think I should do to not be so nervous and to help me feel better about starting a new school year?

I would love to hear your answers.

I wish you a great new school year.  I hope that you are kind to one another, and respect one another's differences without making fun, because as we found out with Helga-

Being a Bully Doesn't make you look good!

Now who wants to look like a toad? Definitely not me!
I hope you don't either!!

Love, Hazel

p.s. Please feel free to write me back!

Send your letters to:
R.G. Frazia-Fan Mail
14 Barkley Ln
Nesconset, NY 11767

I hope that you and your children enjoyed Hazel's Letter.  

You can sign up for Letter's From Hazel by clicking here. Scroll down the Welcome Page halfway.  
You can also find additional retailers to purchase the book from, discussion questions, a coloring page and additional bullying resources on the Welcome page

Thank you for your purchase and support. 

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<![CDATA[Bullying: Just how serious is it?]]>Sat, 29 Jul 2017 04:00:00 GMThttp://dontblamehazel.com/blog/bullying-just-how-serious-is-it-facts-findings-solutionsPicture
How Serious Bullying Really is: finding the core & a well defined solution






"There is no greater pain than losing a child mentally, physically or spiritually-this is how serious bullying really is. Coming together as a community and a team to teach children how to work together and love one another is a logical solution. We were not born to hate and hurt one another" -R.G. Frazia

Once a child get's to Junior High or High School, without a strong foundation, confidence and support there is great potential that they will be a target for bullying. At this age it is not taking a toy or block, it is physical violence, tears, broken hearts, inability to learn and unfortunately suicide. 

Our modern day environment provides additional outlets for bullying such as social bullying/cyber-bullying. This can drive a child to self medicate with drugs or prescription pills to alleviate the pain or slip into depression and thoughts of suicide. 

Most children will not share what is going on, they will usually bury it inside themselves and believe it is theirs.

It is not Bullying that is the core issue; it is how we learn to coexist from early childhood.


Facts, Findings, Solutions

Bullying Statistics: The Targets

Unfortunately, children and teens who are considered “different” from their peers are the most frequent targets of bullies. Special needs students; Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgendered (LGBT) students; students who are overweight; and students who are perceived as “weak” are the most likely targets of bullying by others. Nine out of 10 LGBT youth report being verbally bullied because of their sexual orientation, while 55.2% of those students reported being cyberbullied. Of special needs students who report bullying, the majority of those who are victimized are students diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome, and students with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD).

Source:nobullying.com

Prevention at School

Bullying can threaten students’ physical and emotional safety at school and can negatively impact their ability to learn. The best way to address bullying is to stop it before it starts. There are a number of things school staff can do to make schools safer and prevent bullying.

Getting Started Assess school prevention and intervention efforts around student behavior, including substance use and violence. You may be able to build upon them or integrate bullying prevention strategies. Many programs help address the same protective and risk factors that bullying programs do.
Build a Safe Environment  Establish a school culture of acceptance, tolerance and respect. Use staff meetings, assemblies, class and parent meetings, newsletters to families, the school website, and the student handbook to establish a positive climate at school. Reinforce positive social interactions and inclusiveness.

Educate Students and School Staff Build bullying prevention material into the curriculum and school activities. Train teachers and staff on the school’s rules and policies. Give them the skills to intervene consistently and appropriately.

Provided by The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services
resource:stopbullying.gov

PARENTS, TEACHERS, SCHOOLS, ORGANIZATIONS -WE DON'T WANT TO LET IT GET THIS FAR

The Columbus Dispatch- May 17, 2014
p/o Article Written by Charlie Boss

Cora Delille had been bullied for years. Her friends say kids called her names and dragged her reputation through the mud at school, in the park, on social media.

Her parents didn’t know. Neither did her teachers. For the most part, Cora kept the harassment to herself. She shared some of her pain with her closest friends. But it wasn’t until she committed suicide last week that her loved ones discovered how bad the bullying had been.

“She mentioned here and there when kids made fun of her. She didn’t clue me in to how bad it was,” said Amy Hall, Cora’s mother.

As in many cases of youth suicide, Cora’s death left others wondering what they might have missed and what police, the schools and those close to Cora could have done.


Bullying- An understanding of the spiritual elements and defining where it starts

Bullying is one of the most important issues facing our schools today. There are many reasons for concern when it comes to bullying, but one we don't often talk about is what it does to our children's spirit and the long term effects it has on them. 

Our aura is the energy field that protects and radiates our spirit.  Our spirit is how we know each other. We say, "she's a free spirit," or "what a great spirit that child has," but we never really stop to think about the "broken spirit". 

Spiritually, we reference each other as "energy".   When a child is insecure and projects this insecurity outward to a weaker recipient, the recipient will absorb the negative energy and take on the insecure child's problem as their own. For example, if "Charlie" (the bully) feels he has a big nose, he may approach a smaller child with glasses and call him a geek. Charlie takes everyone's attention away from his big nose because now he has taken a position of power. Most other children become fearful of this power and now project the negative energy toward the child wearing glasses. This child will now continue to carry the negative energy with him until there is a counter balance of positive healing energy.

Healing energy can come from parent/ teacher intervention, positive support from friends and peers, and counseling. On a close level it is very effective when we really listen with our hearts.  Sending a feeling of a true connection of love to the child.

We also want to make sure that we work in a healing manner with the child who is sending the negative energy, and be mindful that there is always a root cause to their pain. Sometimes, getting to the core of the issue and addressing it can be tricky. Above all, nurturing this child is the most important thing we can do. If we heal the one child that is being picked on, but not the child that is bullying, the cycle will continue.  

Every child needs to feel loved, understood, supported and cared for. Using the same tools and methods for the child being bullied as the one used for the "bully" is a great way to start to help heal this child and rebuild his/her self confidence. Closely encouraging and helping him/her connect with the other children will help to repair his/her aura and may give this child a foundation in school that he/she may not have elsewhere. 

The children are the future of our spiritual nature, it is our responsibility to protect, educate, and comfort them. 

Providing literature, tools, education, and support helps our children put a stop to bullying before it starts!


SUCCESS IN HEALING & PEER/EDUCATOR INTERVENTION WORKS!

Study provided by Megan Meier Foundation
Source Meganmeierfoundation.org

PEER ADVOCACY 
Bystanders’ beliefs in their social self-efficacy were positively associated with defending behavior and negatively associated with passive behavior from bystanders – i.e. if students believe they can make a difference, they’re more likely to act (Thornberg et al, 2012).

Teens of all ages and backgrounds are witnessing these mean behaviors online and are reacting in a variety of ways (Pew Research Center Internet Project, 2011):


  • 90% of teen social media users say they have ignored the mean behavior they have witnessed on a social network site.
  • 80% say they have personally defended a victim of meanness and cruelty.
  • 79% say they have told someone to stop their mean behavior on a social network site.
  • However, 21% of social media-using teens say they have personally joined in on the harassment of others on a social network site.

Students who experience bullying report that allying and supportive actions from their peers (such as spending time with the student, talking to him/her, helping him/her get away, or giving advice) were the most helpful actions from bystanders (Davis and Nixon, 2010).

Students who experience bullying are more likely to find peer actions helpful than educator or self-actions (Davis and Nixon, 2010).


More than half of bullying situations (57%) stop when a peer intervenes on behalf of the student being bullied (Hawkins, Pepler, and Craig, 2001). 


Article by: R.G. Frazia
R.G. Frazia is the author of the children's bullying prevention book, Don't Blame Hazel! Appropriate for children ages 4-9

Purchase a copy for your child, school or library today!

Visit the webpage for discussion questions based on the book, a coloring page, Signup to receive Letters From Hazel to your students/children each month, and great resources on bullying.  
​Your purchase is valuable and much appreciated:) 

W/ Love, R.G. Frazia
www.rgfrazia.com

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